A little chitchat – Why does social media value our worth?

I usually don’t do posts like these, but for a very long time something has bothered me and I know there are people out there who can relate to this. So lets have a little chat shall we? Why does social media value our worth? Why do we let apps like instagram, pinterest, twitter and sometimes even wordpress define if our work is good enough? For so long instagram has been my happy place in social media, I love taking pictures and editing them. I love to make sure my feed looks good, and oh how much I love following people. Twitter has always been the place where I share my thoughts and wordpress, yes the beloved place of mine where I get to embrace the things that fascinate me.

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But slowly everything has changed, and I think most of all these apps, it’s instagram that has lost it’s game. Sadly the other apps seem to follow the downfall. I used to be very carefree with my instagram, I posted what I wanted and when I wanted. I got really nice feedback from my friends and followers. Now the main thing that people seem to care about is the numbers – as known as followers, likes and comments. I don’t even try to deny the fact that they don’t matter to me, because they do. So much that it actually defines my mood. I find myself questioning the value of my pictures all the time. When I don’t get as much likes as I normally do all that I can think about is ‘wasn’t my picture good enough’. And it makes me question the pictures that I post, even though I love them? But ‘so what, my followers don’t seem to love them’ I think. AND THAT IS HORRIBLE.

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Why does it matter so much if we get 200 likes or 1000 likes? Just why? Sadly we can see this same circle going around in wordpress, not to even mention how much likes and retweets matter in twitter. When I post a blog post that I worked so hard for, but the stats aren’t ‘blooming’ย I immediately think that ‘wasn’t my content good enough?’ ‘Didn’t people like my pictures’ and then this pops to my head: I haven’t been active enough to my fellow bloggers so no one is returning the favor. And yes that is harsh thing to say, but honestly isn’t that what we tend to do? To get activity we are active ourselves, give likes and comments. Of course that is not how it should be, we shouldn’t care about likes, comments and stats in overall. We should be happy with our content no matter what the feedback is. ย But we just aren’t?

So again, why do we let apps like these define if we and our content is good enough? We should be the ones deciding about our pictures, content and thoughts. Maybe I am the only one who feels this way, but I truly hate the sad feeling that kicks in when my stats in any of these social medias aren’t what I hoped them to be. I don’t know, what do you think?

xoxo

allekirjoitus2

 

14 thoughts on “A little chitchat – Why does social media value our worth?

  1. You brought up such a great point. In the beginning, my blogging focus was purely on likes, comments and follows. But recently, my sister asked me what’s my plan and I had no idea.

    When I thought about it, I didn’t want to get so swept up in that stuff. And it’s controversial but I think there are a lot of blog posts out there that receive high comments and interaction, but I don’t think they are written well or actually valuable.

    Likewise with social media. But you never really know what a person is doing behind the scenes to gain interaction. And what matters is your goals.
    Views, unique users etc etc, there is so much a person can focus on.

    Personally I think your articles are great and I’ve noticed too, that interaction is far lower when I am not commenting as much. Am I following you on Instagram because I will happily interact. X

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    1. I agree with all you said! Social media is really tricky place haha ๐Ÿ˜‚ My ig is ughmango if you follow me please let me know so I donโ€™t miss it and so I can follow you back!! xx

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  2. I can definitely relate to this Jasmin. Especially with Instagram. I catch myself way too often judging the quality of a photo on how well it did on Insta which is such an annoying trait.

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  3. I loved this post! I can relate to this, I often feel like photos aren’t good enough and it really can put you down. I really try to see it as a little fun thing I do for myself and at the end of the day I enjoyed taking the photo so that’s all that matters. This was a very amazing strong post xx loved it xx

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  4. I am so glad you posted this. I can relate to all of your thoughts on social media. I also occasionally get discouraged when my numbers arenโ€™t high or a blog post isnโ€™t getting enough engagement. Sometimes, I have to take a step back from social media to remember why I love creating content. Thank you for this refreshing and relatable post!

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    1. Yes that is exactly what I often need to do too! Just take a step back and remind myself why I love this and who I am doing it for aka myself!! Thank you for your comment โ˜บ๏ธ xx

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  5. I don’t think there really is a correlation between the value of content and the amount of engagement it gets, because the stuff that gets really high engagement is usually favoured by an arbitrary algorithm over which we have no control and appeals to a wide audience. It can be very discouraging, as platforms (Instagram being the infamous one) make growth difficult for smaller creators who often bring forth so much interesting content and value. This is something we have to keep in mind to make stats and numbers less discouraging. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and bringing up an interesting topics! Xx

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    1. Thank you for your comment! Its true that instagram itself is making everything more difficult for smaller accounts, itโ€™s very sad and I think one of the reasons why instagram is losing active users :/ xx

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  6. ๐Ÿ’– this post. Up until 7 months ago when I began blogging I never had an Instagram account because many of my friends shared your feelings and I did not want to get caught up. I unfortunately, fell into the rabbit hole as well, but I quickly realized how unrealistic social media can be in everyday life. I donโ€™t want it to steal my happiness, so I just use it as a tool to promote the blog and I detach myself completely.

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  7. I totally agree with this post. I’ve found that the more active I am on social media, the more likes and follows I get which works in that I am putting more content out there to be enjoyed but also means that there’s always this pressure to be active when sometimes you have other commitments that get in the way and as a result, your likes and following suffers. x

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  8. unfortunately, it seems to be human nature to think like that and act like that! i barely have time to be on instagram anymore and i’ve noticed my engagment drop too!

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